As everyone knows, the favourite method of mating and dating for singletons the world over is to join an online dating site. But what most people don't realise is that only around 10% of dating site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen site and a whopping 70% don't even receive one message from another member. If you follow the 10 simple steps outlined below, you too can join the 10% who find love and romance on line.

Although the nervousness of a first date can somewhat hamper the flow of your true and wonderful personality, there are a few signs that you'll notice when things are really going great. The conversation will flow. There will be a natural rhythm to the dialogue, each person contributing and taking turns in the spotlight. You'll enjoy listening to them tell you their tales, and you'll know that they are paying attention to what you have to say.

We have all heard the story on the news about a person who decided to meet up with another individual they had chatted with online, and never returned home. These occurrences are abnormal when it comes to online dating, but here are a few tips to make sure that your online dating experience is fun and safe.

Make sure to trust your instinct. If you have a gut feeling that something may not be right about the other person, stick with your instinct. You should always feel comfortable with whoever you are chatting. If someone is abusive, block them immediately. There are plenty of other personal ads to look through, so take your time and view a good number of them.

What I suggest is this: one day or evening in the near future when you're both feeling calm, quiet and close, (don't do this for instance while he's watching TV or doing something in the yard), just ask him if he's getting everything he could imagine from his relationship with you. Then, ask a few probing questions, (see the above-referenced article). Get into this and view it as a relationship-building exercise.

After you've talked to him for awhile and made a few discoveries of your own, you can then get into your own issues. But, do this with the attitude of continuing to build your relationship - not with what he's doing wrong. This is a process, not a single event. You can say, "Can I show you how I'd like you to kiss me?" Then, show him. You can even make a game out of it. Play-reward him when he does it right, and show him what is wrong.